Last week I had a pretty big upset about something. It ran very deep, and made me feel like I wanted to just pop out of my skin and run away and hide.
But I’m one of the lucky ones! I have a lovely following on facebook – full of supporters, friends, clients and people who have like-ideas. So, I thought, why not ask for a hug?
So I did – and was bowled over by the huge amount of immediate, overwhelmingly loving replies – including a picture of flowers, a video of a sweet manatee, and more.
“THOU MUST SUFFER ALONE!” >>> NOT!!!
Only a few years ago, I’d have thought it was better to suffer in silence. You know what I mean – the “I don’t want to burden you with my bummer” kind of thinking.
Truth is, people really DO want to support you, and even if you’re down, they’re most likely not, and are happy to send you good wishes, huggies and kissies and all kinds of uplifting thoughts.
Don’t bother with the ones who don’t really listen but want to tell you what to do, give you cheery, inappropriate bolstering or want you to brush it off. They only hurt you more.
Even if you only know one person who can listen to you and be with you without judgement when you’re in that dark place, that person is worth more than a gold mine. Call that person and say, “hey, I’m in a dark place, can you help me remember who I really am?” They will.
Try it some time when you just can’t lift one more finger to help yourself. You’ll be amazed at the response you get.
FROM SELF-PITY to GRATITIUDE in 45 minutes
I was sooooo very grateful – those posts on facebook really helped me turn my downward spiral into a newer, greater sense of self-respect, self-acceptance, love and peace.
As a coach, it’s what I do all day every day – helping people find the ways that are unique to them that they can use to make their lives better. So it was such a gift to receive all that love.
If you were one of the people who shared your love with me that day, bless you and thank you!
Remember, I love you!
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