Speaking with my business coach about a plan we were creating for my own coaching, I started to get really sleepy. If I didn’t lie down right now, I’d simply collapse on the floor in a puddle…
(Watch/listen to me reading this story to you here!)
I had been blazing wide awake the moment before, and now I felt as if I was going to flat pass out on the spot!
Did I really need a nap?
No. I just needed to take time out to see what deep-seated emotional issue I needed to clear up, so I could pay attention to, and really hear, what my advisor was trying to get through to me. My body was very clearly telling me what I needed.
I excused myself and took a few moments to just get quiet.
After closing my eyes and asking myself what was really going on, I discovered a deep layer of the fear, “What if people think I’m stupid?”
And more — “It’s so hard to make this plan! I feel so confused, my mind feels like crazy wild snakes slithering around in a tropical jungle!”
After I did a little EFT/tapping*, it was easy to see that believing that people would think I was stupid was just an old, outdated belief. It had been trying to keep me safe, discouraging me away from scary situations.
I thanked it for trying to help.
Why? Because, many times tappers try to ‘tap away’ their embedded thoughts, beliefs, and habits, as well as the energy of those old patterns, and in my experience, that’s a grave mistake.
You can transform those thoughts, beliefs, and habits into new and better, more constructive ones.
You can also harvest the energy from them to save for later, for creative uses.
And yes, most times, they really are trying to keep you safe.
So yes, I thank them. You might think that’s weird, but old belief patterns have distinct energy patterns, almost like personalities. You can talk to them, have conversations with them!
Imagine trying to keep a dear friend safe, and all they do is fight against and disparage you! Instead, what would it be like to appreciate them, and acknowledge their hard work trying to keep you from danger?
Because even though the old belief— “People will think I’m stupid” — might have seemed like an obstacle and harmful, maybe keeping you from speaking onstage, or some other endeavor — the belief, in trying to keep you safe, kept you off the stage because you weren’t ready.
I ask them if they’d like to join me with an updated agenda, a new set of Knowings.
Whereas before, where I had old destructive thoughts like, “Maybe I really am stupid! What if people find out? What will happen then? I’ll be laughed at, punished, shunned…” or whatever awful thing I believed would happen, now I could set a new bunch of beliefs that really did serve me.
Then I acknowledge and state the real truth: “I’m intelligent, clever, and resourceful, and of course I can make this plan work!”
Most times the transformed belief/energy says yes, and you can add their energy to the Creative Energy Tank that floats above you, waiting for orders.
Sometimes, I like to give them a new job, like First Officer of Safety, where it is now their job to alert me to danger – not to take over and run me or my life, because I am the captain now, not them.
So in their new job, they warn me of danger, and I’m the one who decides what to do, not them. Where they used to rule me, now they work for me.
(You can even give them a new uniform, and they will strut around in it proudly, and sit on your shoulder to point out not just danger, but new and fun opportunities.)
I realized, too, that I was confused, because I’d never been down the business plan route for this particular idea before, and simply didn’t know where to go with it yet. So I tapped until the confusion was cleared.
After that, my mind relaxed.
I was able to come back to the meeting even more alert and receptive than I had been before.
When you can pay close attention and keep your mind connected to your deeper Knowing, you can stay on track better.
I can hear someone say, “Oh heck, I just bully through crap like that!”
Yep. I used to try to bully on when confronted with blocks or obstacles. It worked sometimes, but the results were never optimal. Bullying on just leads you through more mud, rather than jumping to a clean, clear path.
I’ve seen so many times that it’s a real mistake to make myself bully on when I actually do need to stop — whether it’s a physical, mental or emotional rest — or regroup to find new ideas and new directions.
When I recognize that I’m not fully ‘on,’ and allow myself to take a little nap, maybe a 5-minute rest, or just take a simple pausing point, it’s an opportunity to tap and let one or more new ideas through.
Taking that tiny little break can have monumental consequences down the line.
I take 30-minute naps in the afternoon, because just as I doze off, I get great ideas about things. I observe them, let them sink in, rest a bit more, and pop up at the end feeling way more energized than I had been before … with the new ideas in tow.
If I bully on through a problem or issue, the new ideas I would have had during that quick rest or tapping session escape, sometimes never coming back. And, even if they do come back, they always lose their subtlety.
Tapping helps me stay on track, and keep on keeping on.
Thanks so much for reading my story.
I hope you are inspired to transform old, limiting beliefs that hold you back from the excellent life you deserve, and that you’ll be taking action on those dreams of yours!
Signals that There’s Something Going on Under the Surface
© Angela Treat Lyon 2023
Image: Stepping into my Dreams
© Angela Treat Lyon 2021
*Want to know more about tapping? I wrote the book on it. The very first one, in fact, in 2002: Change Your Mind with EFT, the Basics. (This post is an enhanced version of one of the stories in it.)
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